Nowadays, the majority of children come from split households. It is the norm. But this does not have to be traumatic for the children. With proper co-parenting, kids from split households can live totally normal lives. But it must be handled properly. Let me address the negative possibilities: a child who constantly hears dad bad-mouthing mom can develop psychological imprints of how men treat women. That child can grow into an adult with confidence problems and serious relationship issues. Most directly, that child will grow to resent the bad-mouthing dad. Surely you don’t want that for your kids. So, perhaps the most important part of my job is to aid, if not force, co-parenting.
If both are “good parents” we fight for significant and quality time with both sides. If substance abuse arises, we push for sobriety. If domestic abuse has happened, we fight for limited exposure, safeguards for the children, and consequences for the perpetrator. Every case and every custody arrangement is different.